I'll admit I was a little shocked when I woke up. Obviously, I enjoy flirting with handsome guys, teasing them. Who doesn't? And yet, I was not aware that I might be ready to start dating again.
My ex and I broke up in September after nearly three years together. This was a big deal, you know. From age 16 to 19 a lot changes, people grow and alter, and sometimes they become very different people than they originally were. That's what happened with us.
I knew as soon as we broke up that I didn't want to be in a relationship for a while if I could help it. At then end of the day, I'm young, have a bunch of great friends who seem to be under the impression that I'm fun to be around, and according to my A-Levels, I'm relatively intelligent too. How about taking a bit of a Man Break and learning who I can be by myself?
So that's what I've been doing since September. Enjoying myself! And I've been loving it like you wouldn't believe. I mean, these are the days of my life... when apart from now will I be able to stay out until 4am with friends? When will I be able to dance 'provocatively' with a hot guy until I decide that I've had enough then leave him alone wondering where he went wrong? When will I be able to spend my money on crazy, frivolous items of no importance just because I feel like I want that new pair of killer heels, or three months in Orlando? Never, that's when. I've never been and may never be again as independent as I am right now, so I've really gone to town making the most of it, and I couldn't be happier.
Perhaps the biggest thing I've learnt is that I'm a lot stronger than I ever gave myself credit for; not being able to call your unconditional support-system boyfriend whenever the slightest mishap occurs has helped me to really put things into perspective, noticing what is and isn't worth shedding tears over and learning how to fix my own problems without wasting time whining about them.
So why am I considering dating again? I seem happy enough, right? Well, as a sociable person I constantly want to be meeting new people, debating, talking, flirting and having fun. And why not? What could I possibly lose from meeting some nice guys, having a few drinks and sharing some good conversation? Nothing, that's what I think.
Now, don't get me wrong. I'm still no longer searching for 'The One' (if such a fellow exists that is!) But how will I know when I meet 'The One' if I haven't had 'The Loser', 'The Keeno' and 'The Preener' first? Of course I wont be going on dates with the aforementioned guys deliberately knowing that they will turn out that way, but the point I'm trying to make is (and pardon the cliche) that I wont get my prince unless I kiss a few frogs first.
Where do I plan on finding these 'frogs' then? Well, in order to escape the froggiest of the 'frogs', I am considering getting my friends to set me up... almost like an experiment or something. Each week I could ask a friend to organize me a date with their favorite 'Why-doesn't-he-have-a-girlfriend' guy acquaintances. At least this way I have some chance of avoiding 'The Nudest', 'The Porn King' and 'The Woman-Beater'. Plus, perhaps I will come across a nice enough guy during this non-exclusive dating experiment who might make me rethink this whole Boyfriend Ban... I kind of hope not, but that's all part of the fun of dating I guess, seeing what's on offer and learning what best suits you. You don't buy a dress unless you've tried it on for size first, after all!
So, SOS to all of my nearest and dearest. If you know a nice, tall, dark, handsome, intelligent, funny guy who you don't want and fancies sharing time with a groovy little blogger, hit me up! It can't hurt your own love karma to get yours truly back on that dating horse. In the meantime, I'm starting to put myself out there with guys I see around. Asking someone to join me for a drink might be a little nerve-wracking at first, but I reckon you should do something that scares you each day, so from now on I'm going for it...
Wish me luck and let me know your dating stories! I can't wait to hear them :-)